Here is an update, I'm on the phone with eBay as we post here. Since you've been working with me on this I've been keeping a close eye on my listings, making sure the shipping discount box is checked. Today there were several that I know I changed yesterday that again today had that box unchecked. I figured that I had just screwed up an not clicked submit. So I fixed them. Then I fixed that new one that I listed for you last night, the green pearls. I checked the listing to make sure it showed the message. Later, I looked at the listing and that shipping discount message was gone, so I edited it again, and the box had become unchecked. This time I know that I had fixed it before.
So, are you ready for this, eBay says that several users have reported this same issue, of the shipping rule box becoming unchecked all by itself. I am now on a list to have that bug fixed. So they say.
I am so sorry that I've put you through this when it wasn't AW2K in the first place! You have been so kind to help me so much. I hope you are not mad at me :(
"The only time we learn is when we are in the fire." JM