OK EVERYBODY! Here it is- it obviously works because in a reply about another issue a tech told me:
"You are connecting to your mailboxes using the POP3 protocol and
authenticating using SSL. All of our mail servers require this SSL
authentication."

When I disputed him he actually rechecked and confirmed the last of the servers are now requiring SSL. The final changes apparently went through in December 2014 and I am doing well so the STUNNEL configuration I posted works for SSL. The ONLY drawback? I have to handstart STUNNEL to run each time my machine is restarted. It is very worth this tiny extra effort to be able to stay with Pair.com The same basic service I get for $5.95 a month is over $25 with Godaddy for example. YEY STUNNEL!